ten things about dating

Jul 25, 2013

I have a love/hate relationship with the idea of dating.
I can admit it, I am a serial dater. I have had a boyfriend since high school and this is the longest I have gone without one. BUT I enjoy the hell out of it. I enjoy the freedom of my life and worrying about me, myself, and I. I may sound selfish but at the moment, I'm allowed to be. When I am with someone, it is definitely not all about me, but about us.

Now dating..
I went on a date last night and it went well, but the idea of dating and the so-called "rules" are so... I'm not sure what the word is. Irritating? Frustrating? Exciting? Butterflies?
My group of friends consists of an eclectic blend of couples, married, and single. All of us singles talk about dating and we all have different ideas of what should and shouldn't happen.

So, this is my ten things about the dating game.. (sometimes I think of myself as an anomaly so this may not pertain to every girl or even most).

  1. Technology. It has really screwed us on the idea of asking someone on a date: texting, Facebooking, emailing. Since when did we stop human interaction? And by the way: no it's not okay for you to text on your phone while at dinner. Put the phone away for the two hours we are together or don't bother calling for a second date.
  2. Going dutch is never a good idea on a first date. This is where chivalry is not dead. Guys, you should always pay on the first date. ALWAYS. Honestly, I think the first few dates. I can not speak for every girl, but I like to think of myself as independent and after the first few dates, I can't let you keep paying. When I'm comfortable with you, I will definitely offer to pay. But this also depends on the type of girl you are dating.
  3. The first kiss is not always on the first date. It is definitely one of those "you just know" when it's supposed to happen.
  4. Never make the movies your first date. We are not in high school where we like dark rooms away from our parents. Adults like conversation to get to know one another and see if there is some sort of connection. We do not want to make out in a dark corner the first night without knowing you. If you take me to dinner, try not to make it a chain restaurant (i.e. Applebee's, TGI Friday's, etc); if it's the only option then it's understandable.
  5. Be confident. I enjoy confidence. I am intimidating (so I have been told), my personality is very outgoing and somewhat of a "firecracker." If you're shy and quiet, be confident. Own who you are as a person and I will totally love that. Confidence is attractive, cocky is not.
  6. Flirting. It is great and it makes people feel special. Compliment, it works wonders on a persons confidence.
  7. Approaching a guy is not a bad thing. We are allowed to be the aggressive ones once in a while. And ladies? Wipe the resting bitch face off, it is not approachable. And guys? Just because we're in a club does not mean we want you to grab us and start dancing without even asking. That will get you a dirty look and standing alone. Be classy about the way you approach the opposite sex.
  8. Opposites can attract. Introvert and extrovert. Quiet and loud. Short and tall. It can work. Does it always? No, but it is possible.
  9. Chivalry isn't dead. Open the car door. Open the restaurant door. Tell her she looks nice. Smile. Pay for the date. Be polite. Act like a gentleman and treat her like a lady.
  10. Be yourself. Do not try to be something you are not. Why would you want to be with someone who is only pretending to be what you want? We want someone genuine. If you can not be yourself with your date, then it probably isn't "meant to be."

I could probably go on about various things about dating, but this is what I can think of now. Yes, it is a new day and age, but being a gentleman will never get old. Enjoy whatever it is that you are doing and if you are not interested, be polite. There is never a reason to be rude to someone.

And so goes it, the dating game will forever be confusing and exciting♥

1 comment

  1. I agree with you on all of these, especially the texting. If a guy pays more attention to his stupid phone than me while we are out, I'll just leave. I'm rude like that ;) .


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